Archive for December 2012

Reflections on Doing Less

December 31, 2012

ReflectionsIt’s New Year’s Eve 2012. I’ve been wanting to launch this blog for a long time and just haven’t gotten around to it until now. People are busy reflecting on the past year and resolving to do differently during the upcoming year. I’m not one for making New Year’s Resolutions but I am one to reflect and plan what I would want to do differently – and the same – as the year just ending.

This year has brought a lot of changes and a lot of evaluating attitudes and events in my life. The first half was the second half of ‘firsts’ without my mother. Her first birthday, first Easter, first Mother’s Day, my first birthday. The second half of the year was a lot of doing – work was insanely busy, I got more involved in Toastmasters, work got in the way of Toastmasters, catching up with Toastmasters got in the way of other things. (Don’t get me wrong. I do like my job. I just prefer it to be controlled busy instead of insanely busy. And I am very happy with my decision to be more involved in Toastmasters. I just didn’t think I’d have to squeeze it into my crazy work schedule.) I spent a lot of time being tired, worn out, exhausted, drained – and a lot of time thinking of what I needed to be doing instead of actually doing it.

In the quiter week between Christmas and New Year’s, which I usually take as vacation, I spent a lot of time resting. And reflecting. Many friends posted on Facebook about their resolutions for the upcoming year. Which made me wonder about what I want to do in 2013. I have friends that push themselves – doing more, achieving more, growing more. Not SMART goals, but stretch goals, hard goals. I’m good with that at work, but I’ve decided that I want to approach my personal life differently. This realization came while reflecting on my summer. I was at my most peaceful and relaxed was when I was on the water, sailing on our boat. (There’s another blog about that. If you want the link, let me know.) That time spent watching the sun reflect off the water was also spent reflecting about my life and my future.

In 2013, I want to do more of doing less. Less stressing about things – and more enjoying the moments that are happening, whatever is happening. Less procrastinating – and more checking things off my list. Less energy spent on stressful relationships – and more embracing the uplifting, supportive ones. Less worrying about being perfect – and more trying new things. Less thinking about what would make me happy – and more doing those things. Less time wasting – and more time investing.

There are some things that I will not be doing less of: loving my family and friends, encouraging others, laughing, being grateful.

However you decide to approach the New Year, whatever you decide to do in 2013, I hope it brings you joy. And I hope you find some time to follow me on my journey to do less.